To Err is human, To forgive is divine. At some point of time in our lives, we all have heard these lines written by Alexander Pope. I was first acquainted with the words in one of the many philosophical sessions with my grandfather. I was a child at that time, 8 or 9 years. The quote was embedded in me, but it was only with time that I understood its importance in real life. The feeling of gratitude when I received forgiveness for the mistakes I made, and the feeling of satisfaction when I forgave friends and family for the mistakes they made is just surreal.
If you are one of those who made a mistake and are struggling with it, the first thing you need to do is accept it. Pride and Denial often lead to further downfall, and it will suck you up into a blackhole from where it would be difficult to come out. Yes, accepting it might lead to people not liking you or seeing you in the same way as before, but in your heart you would know that you are true to yourself and that will ease your pain with time. As L.M. Montgomery said “Isn’t it nice to think that tomorrow is a new day with no mistakes in it yet?”
If your wrong doings have affected the people around you, you should have the courage to ask for forgiveness. But at the same time, you should be prepared of people not accepting you or your sincere apology. To undo wrong doings takes time, and you have to be strong enough to pass through rejections, un-acceptance and the trials that come with it. However, understand that you have to learn to not be so hard on yourself. The right people will understand you and the ones who are not meant to be will not. I would like to share one of the excerpts from Steve Maraboli’s book “Life, the Truth, and being free”:
“If people refuse to look at you in a new light and they can only see you for what you were, only see you for the mistakes you’ve made, if they don’t realize that you are not your mistakes, then they have to go”
If you are one of those who are having a tough time coping up with the mistakes made by your near and dear ones, I know you are hurt. I know you got something you did not expect. But if that person really means something to you and has an impact on your life, it is time to clear the clouds of disappointment and look deeper into why did a person do what he/she did. What was the motivation behind it? This is your chance to help someone who have lost their way, and trust me there comes immense satisfaction to show the beacon of light to a fellow being in need.
The world has become a darker place with ego, pride and greed controlling the better part of us. But I believe that there are millions out there who still believe in humanity and wish for a peaceful and better world. To all those, let go of your err’s, understand the people around you and with forgiveness and love in your hearts, you can make the change you wish to see.
“It is unwise to be too sure of one’s own wisdom. It is healthy to be reminded that the strongest might weaken and the wisest might err” – Mahatma Gandhi